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No, the ONLY problem with this story, the film, and with 95% of films and books is the idea that a man somehow needs to be CONVINCED That he loves you, is so 'unaware' of his feelings, can be convinced that he is in love when he didn't know it (come on!),or doesn't recognize his feelings. That is a terrible thing to be telling women, because it is not true in the real world!!! Let me tell you: When a man is in love, he doesn't need any 'convincing'. And this is coming from men themselves: When men want something, they go for it. Period. They don't need to be bargained with ("let me stay with you the rest of my days") or given ultimatums to marry you. If they want to marry you , they will do the proposing!Period. The portrayal of poor little me and poor little Dorrit (yes, I had a half-British man call me 'little', too) having to be the ones to somehow convince a man of his true loving feelings for us, and this constant portrayal of a man suddenly seeing the light and saying 'Oh, my.. I must love her' is absolute b.s., and it makes women in the real world waste a lot of time (sometimes years of their lives) because of story lines like this that abound: "He does love me, he just doesn't know it', or " all it takes is one person (young Chittery) to tell him and he will finally realize that we both love each other and are meant to be together!" Again, women, all the men say that no one had to convince them or 'show' them when they were in love. There was nothing that a woman can do to get a man to love her. Throughout this entire story, the Arther character virtually ignores her, skips off happily leaving her in hell and never asking about her, goes for another woman,(certainly not pining away for Dorrit) tells the woman that he loves about the other woman (that happened in real life, and talk about painful?!) has no concern for little Dorrit's feelings throughout the entire film, even when she has just lost her father and uncle at the same time (!) Arthur merely says 'Sorry to hear that', many women nurse men back to health and the men don't have some big glorious awakening of romantic love from it, much less a marriage, and Arthur never even asks about her through the film, much too preoccupied with his other things. That is not the behavior of a man in love. Men who are TRULY in love will try to move mountains to be with the woman they love, and make great, huge personal sacrifices to do so. He never even proposed marriage to her, and is full of the same ridiculous, inane 'excuses' commitment phobic men use (you know, the ones who never marry the woman in the real world): Age difference, I send you away because I care for you, money, etc. Baloney!
score 10/10
w-weish 7 October 2015
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